Violence is a learned behavior.

Children learn violent behaviors from their family and peers, as well as observe it in their neighborhoods and in the community at large. These behaviors are reinforced by what youth see on television, on the Internet, in video games, movies, music videos, and what they hear in their music.

When children are disciplined with severe corporal punishment or verbal abuse, or when they are physically or sexually abused, or when they witness such behavior in their home, it is not surprising that they behave violently toward others.

Main causes for teen violence:

• Being the victim of physical abuse and/or sexual abuse
• Exposure to violence in the home and/or community
• Exposure to violence in media (TV, movies, etc.)
• Use of drugs and/or alcohol
• Presence of firearms in home
• Combination of stressful family socioeconomic factors (poverty, severe deprivation, marital breakup, single parenting, unemployment, loss of support from extended family)

As an individual is exposed to more risk factors, the probability that he or she will engage in violent behavior increases. Clearly, violence leads to violence.

Warning Signs

Get help quickly if your child is exhibiting these warning signs for potential violence:

• threats of violence, either verbal or written
• past violent or aggressive behavior (including uncontrollable angry outbursts)
• access to guns or other weapons
• bringing a weapon to school
• past suicide attempts or threats
• family history of violent behavior or suicide attempts
• blaming others and/or unwilling to accept responsibility for one's own actions
• recent experience of humiliation, shame, loss, or rejection
• bullying or intimidating peers or younger children
• being a victim of abuse (physical, sexual, emotional, neglect)
• witnessing abuse or violence in the home
• themes of death or depression repeatedly evident in conversation, written expressions, reading selections, or artwork
• preoccupation with themes and acts of violence in TV shows, movies, music, magazines, comics, books, video games, and Internet sites
• mental illness, such as depression, mania, psychosis, or bipolar disorder use of alcohol or illicit drugs
• disciplinary problems at school or in the community (delinquent behavior)
• past destruction of property or vandalism
• cruelty to animals
• firesetting behavior
• poor peer relationships and/or social isolation
• involvement with cults or gangs
• little or no supervision or support from parents or other caring adult
a sense of entitlement -- believing he/she should get what he/she wants at whatever expense

Typically, the greater the number of these warning signs present, the greater the risk. It is important to realize, however, that many children exhibit these warning signs and never resort to violence. Even so, these signs can be a cue that something is wrong, and your child needs help.

Get Help

If you are concerned about your child possibly committing violence, you need to arrange for him or her to be seen by a qualified mental health professional.

Look for a child/family mental health professional who is experienced in working with adolescents and their families.

The goals of treatment typically focus on helping the teen to:

• learn how to control anger
• express anger and frustrations in appropriate ways
• be responsible for his/her actions
• accept consequences
• address family conflicts, school problems, and community issues