Teenagers are these odd combinations of very adult behaviors and often appearances and childlike mentalities that crop up to remind us that they are not quite yet adults. They can present themselves like adults, and often look, smell, conduct their business, and relate to their parents on a very adult level. We have asked them to. For the most part they comply.

When you have a mature child it can be difficult in their latter teens to realize that they are not quite yet adults and giving them too much freedom may not encourage them to grow, but cause regressive behaviors as they experience too much of the downfall of freedom.

Freedom and responsibility should go hand in hand and there should not be a substitute for either one. You want your child to be independent and allowing them their space to grow does encourage this. However a teenager without boundaries is out there playing by the roll of the dice, and how unfortunate it would be if one wrong decision crippled all there was that is good in their world.

A few basic boundaries can go a long way. Simple boundaries that require discipline and respect and a basic understanding of prioritizing can add a lot of value to their last few years as teenagers. Yes, they are growing up but they will still be growing up when they are twenty two. Growing up takes a long time.

Here’s what you should do to set boundaries:-

Sponges - Use statements like “Uh huh” and “Is there anything else?” that help you stay with the topic but do not become argumentative or attempt to deny your child’s feelings.
Example: Child: “I don’t see why I have to come before midnight.”
Parent: “Uh huh. Is there anything else?”

Deflectors - If the situation intensifies, stay focused on the issue at hand by deflecting your teen’s point and restating the rule.
Example: Child: “Everybody else gets to stay out until midnight!”
Parent: “Regardless, your curfew is 11 pm.”

Setting Standards

Take the time to sit down with your child to establish dating, activity, and party standards. Think about appropriate age behaviors and safety issues. Does your teen have phone money or a cell phone to call you in an emergency? Set up a system where no matter what, your child can call for your help, using code words if necessary. That way, if your child finds him or herself in a dicey situation, your advice, intervention or rescue is only a phone call away.

With your teen, generate a list of negotiable and non-negotiable standards for your family. Some examples:

Also take care :

Avoid being fired as a parent

Most teenagers want to stay friends with their parents and value their guidance. At the same time, they want recognition that they are becoming adults and ask to be treated as such.

Learning to relax your control

Teenagers want to take control of their own lives. Parents often feel anxious and try to retain their control, believing their teenagers are too young for the kinds of freedoms they want. Conflicts of this type are most common between 13 and 16 years of age. Parents are often forced into more authoritarian measures to retain their control, while their teens get more frustrated at the restrictions on their freedom.

Making Concessions

Parent's fears are justified. The world is full of dangers and temptations but, sooner or later, teens will have to deal with the world without parental help. Let go slowly. Freedoms are won over time, when you're confident that your teen is sufficiently mature. This will be the sticking point, since she will undoubtedly think herself mature enough long before you do.

Show respect

Accept your children for what they are. Don't comment negatively on their clothes, hair, weight, music or taste in television. Show respect for their opinions even if you disagree. Don't try to change them into something you want them to be. A useful trick is to imagine they are someone else's teenager and ask yourself, 'Would I say that if it wasn't my son or daughter?' If the answer is 'No', then don't say it.

Just say 'no'? Not always

If you say 'no' to everything, you will only increase your teen's rebelliousness. Listen, discuss and give a little and you will get credit for being flexible. Does it really matter how your son wears his hair if he works hard at school? If your daughter has several rings in her ears, but is obliging and respectful to you, give her some credit.