As a parent or guardian, it is up to you to make sure that your teenaged child is armed with all the essential tools and skills for a successful college experience after high school. A college education can help your child to have a productive future, both personally and professionally. Beyond academics, your child should be prepared for the social experience of college, and the entry into adulthood. The transition from teenager to adult is a cumbersome one for many, and you can help to make it a smoother shift for your college-bound teen. One of the most important skills that your child has to master is responsibility. Teenagers need to develop personal responsibility; they need to abandon dependence, and enter the world as an independent person.

Here are some points which u should keep in mind when your teen starts going to college:

• Ask you child how they are feeling. You may be surprised. They could be terrified to leave home but feel like they should be ecstatic to leave. Leaving for college is a confusing transition so let your child discuss all their feelings.
• Let your teen take the reigns. Although you may want to take control and dictate how everything should go, what comforter they should get for the college, what classes they should take; step back and allow your child to control their future.
• Make sure your child knows you are there for support and encouragement. Allow your teen to ask questions and look for guidance, but do not tell them what to do. Unless they ask for your opinion, bite your tongue.
• Discuss finances with your child now. Your teen is use to a home where there is food in the refrigerator, electricity for lights, and heat when it’s cold. Although teens are old enough to realize things cost money, most don’t know the extent of which you pay. Make a plan now so your child understands what they will and will not be responsible for at school. If you are upfront you will prevent them from resenting you or feeling abandoned.

Being proactive in helping your college student build financial responsibility will have positive outcomes that will pay off in ways you never imagined and for years to come.

• Create an open door with your teen. College is a confusing time where young adults are struggling with who they are and who they want to be. Let them know they can discuss their feelings and struggles with you.
• Tell your teen how to talk to opposite sex. Here you have to frank while talking to your teen. Teach him/her how to talk to the opposite sex. Tell them its quite normal to feel anxious or eager to talk to the opposite sex. So don’t let them feel afraid or ashamed of their feelings. But do tell them to remain in their limits and not to overdo anything like don’t give over attention to any one and don’t let anybody take you for granted.
• Warn them about drugs, drinking and smoking. Your kids need to be educated by you about these bad and foul habits. Tell your son or daughter that you LOVE him/her, and you are worried that he/she might be using drugs or alcohol.Tell them that these things have serious consequences and it makes you feel worried when you think about them having these. While talking to them make it clear in your tone that you will not allow any drug or alcohol use and this is the rule of the family which should not be broken.
• Set the rules about partying. Teenagers are definitely at a stage in their life where enjoying themselves may be top priority, but here’s where you come in as parent. As much as your teen wants to shake her booty at a dance party, you’ve got to remind her to slow down and make sure that she’s got her priorities straight. If it feels like your teen is asking you for permission to go out all the time, you’ve got to set the house rules and stick to them. If you show your teenager that you can bend the house rules for him/her a couple times, he/she may just end up ignoring them altogether. Of course, this isn’t good for you as a parent! As much as your children have their own rights and teens shouldn’t be abused, you shouldn’t let your own teenagers abuse you as parent as well.

On the other hand, never letting your teenager out for the occasional young social gathering will definitely end up making him/her party-hungry. Balance is key. What may be of more importance is knowing exactly what your teen prioritizes and if he/she is sticking to it. If your teenager can be responsible enough to party on a Friday night but keep him/herself just as focused on his/her assignments come Monday, then letting him/her have his/her fun is not a point against you as a parent.

• Teach your teen how to handle competition which they have to face in every aspect whether studies or sports. Don’t pressurize them always to be a topper but clearly and patiently tell them your expectations. Teach them some relaxation techniques which they can use while under pressure. Assure them that you are always there for them whatever the result may be.
• Fashion always comes first when the teen is going to college. Again tell them the rules straightly as what they are allowed to wear and what not. Tell them that you ar not going to accept their blind race for fashion. Also don’t be over strict. Let them wear decent clothes of every type.