Parenting teenagers can be very challenging. There are, though, some effective parenting and communication techniques you can use to help lower the stress level for your teenager:

• When disciplining your teen, replace shame and punishment with positive reinforcement for good behavior. Shame and punishment can make an adolescent feel worthless and inadequate.
• Allow your teenager to make mistakes. Overprotecting or making decisions for teens can be perceived as a lack of faith in their abilities. This can make them feel less confident.
• Give your teen breathing room. Don't expect teens to do exactly as you say all of the time.
• Do not force your teen down a path you wanted to follow. Avoid trying to relive your youth through your teen's activities and experiences.
• If you suspect that your teen is depressed, take the time to listen to his or her concerns. Even if you don't think the problem is of real concern, remember that it may feel very real to someone who is growing up.
• Keep the lines of communication open, even if your teen seems to want to withdraw.
• Try to avoid telling your teen what to do. Instead, listen closely and you may discover more about the issues causing the problems.

If you feel overwhelmed or unable to reach your teen, or if you continue to be concerned, seek help from a qualified healthcare professional.