Being a parent is the hardest job you'll ever love. To make your first few months as goof-proof and enjoyable as possible, follow our troubleshooting guide and avoid these ten classic mistakes.

Believing Everything You Hear

During the first weeks with your newborn, you'll seek advice from everyone who's been there, done that. Even if you don't, they'll offer suggestions anyway. One acquaintance advocates sleeping with the baby. Your best friend warns against it. Your sister-in-law says it's okay to let the baby suck her thumb. Your pediatrician prefers a pacifier.

"The only opinion that matters is yours. If you follow everyone else's advice, you give up the most creative role in your life. Friends and relatives can offer useful parent-tested information. But remember: Your and your spouse's intuitions are the best guides.

Overestimating Your Free Time

Whether you're planning to take weeks, months, or years off from your job, don't kid yourself into thinking that being home with an infant is a holiday. Instead, you're starting a new job, with a tinier, more vocal boss who's so demanding that she won't even give you time off on the weekends. Believe it or not "It's a completely new life."

Your plans to work out, catch up with old friends, and cook dinner every night just may not coincide with your baby's schedule. Set one realistic task every day: Return a phone call, write three thank-you notes, make the bed. At the end of each day, you'll feel pleased if you've crossed that one thing off your list.

Neglecting Your Spouse

After a long day of feeding, rocking, soothing, and diapering, you may feel like telling your just-home-from-work spouse to take a hike-a perfectly understandable reaction.

There's nothing abnormal about having marital troubles and personal stress and feeling blue when your kids are little. Making the transition from carefree twosome to parenting an infant is the biggest challenge to many marriages.

But you have to make your marriage a priority. If you can afford it, hire a baby-sitter and designate one night a week as date night. You'll talk about the baby, of course, but make a vow to chat about other things too. Focus on each other, and make it a habit.

Putting Yourself Last

You are always tried to carve out half an hour for yourself to have a cup of coffee or read the newspaper when you have a baby home. That half hour make your day special and helped you feel normal.

Making time for yourself after your baby is born is a necessity, not an indulgence. Find time to talk to friends on the phone or go to a yoga class. You need to nurture yourself so you don't become mechanical or joyless. The happier you are, the better a parent you will be.

Not Sharing the Load

The learning curve is steep for new moms and dads alike -- so don't shut out your spouse. Let him find his way around the nursery. You may feel proprietary about the baby, and you may initially diaper her faster or bathe her with more confidence. But your spouse needs to master these tasks too. Caring for a newborn is simply too much work for one person to do alone.

While he is doing his part, don't hover, criticize, or constantly instruct. Some mothers say they want their spouses to help with the baby but then don't let the guys assume responsibility. A mom will say, 'Make sure she doesn't get cold, don't overfeed her, and don't play too much after she eats or she'll throw up.' And without realizing it, she has turned her husband into an au pair."

Assuming the Worst

Some babies have real health challenges or develop serious ailments that cause legitimate worries or concerns. But even a healthy child can exhibit all sorts of symptoms that trigger parental anxieties-blotchy skin, a cough, colic, diarrhea. Don't worry too much. Accept the fact that things are going to happen.

Being a new parent, you're bound to worry because you've never had such a responsibility before, but raising children should be a positive experience. If you can learn to relax while the baby is an infant, you may not worry so much over the other weird stuff to come.

Comparing Your Baby With Others

Is she sleeping through the night? Smiling? Trying to sit up? Don't focus too much on developmental charts (they're averages), and don't let other parents make you feel as if your little darling is somehow slow because their child is already solving complex equations.

Babies develop at their own pace, and as long as yours is within the normal range, relax. A baby who crawls early isn't any more advanced than another; it just means more chasing for Mom and Dad.

Not Napping

You should snooze daily, if possible, or take at least one long nap on the weekend. Without adequate rest, it's hard to enjoy what should be a very happy time in your life. Sure, you'll have to sacrifice other things that could be done during naptime, but getting enough rest right now is more important than putting away the dishes.

Spending Too Much

Everyone tells you the baby is going to change your life. But no one tells you how parenthood will affect your pocketbook. Take an experienced parent with you when you shop, someone who knows what you really need and can cut through the hype. Your baby will outgrow them in minutes. Ditto with toys; most babies will happily play with the same object over and over-or even the box it came in. Save your money for piano lessons or college.

Not Preserving the Moment

At every stage, you think, I'll never forget this moment. Sadly, you will. In the continuum of life, hours, days, and months blur together. Suddenly, your child's infancy has passed.

There are many ways to preserve your child's stages. Keep a journal, take photos, or videotape the simple everyday things-you'll want to relive them for years to come.