Is There A Problem?

You Are Not Alone. Many moms would also have similar problems, like trying to recover from cesarean surgery, overwhelming with a colicky baby who cries frequently, having difficulty to nurse the baby, sleep deprived, etc. These moms are stressed out. Their relationship with their babies may take time and effort to build. However, with extra effort and time, most new moms do begin to develop a bond with their babies within a month or two, and most babies eventually form a secure attachment to their mothers.

If you don't feel that you're bonding by the time you take your baby to the first office visit with your child's doctor, discuss your concerns at that appointment. It may be a sign of postpartum depression. Or bonding can be delayed if your baby has had significant, unexpected health issues. It may just be because you feel exhausted and overwhelmed by your child's arrival.

In any event, the sooner a problem is identified, the better. Health care providers are accustomed to dealing with these issues and can help you be better prepared to form a bond with your child.

Also, it often helps to share your feelings about bonding with other new parents. Ask your childbirth educator about parenting classes for parents of newborns.

Bonding is a complex, personal experience that takes time. There's no magic formula and it can't be forced. A baby whose basic needs are being met won't suffer if the bond isn't strong at first. As you become more comfortable with your baby and your new routine becomes more predictable, both you and your partner will likely feel more confident about all of the amazing aspects of raising your little one.

Is There A Problem?

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